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(Once in a while, someone says something, and it sets me off. This is one of those times.)

He said he wanted to see other women because he had to know if there was someone ‘better’ out there.

This, coming after 6 years.

And conveniently, there was already someone else waiting eagerly in the wings. Pretty. More engaging. Talks a lot more. Positive. More ambitious. Knows what she wants (oh, I bet she does.) Richer and lives in a landed property (yeah, I was kinda strapped for cash all the time because I like to share, if you get my drift).

All this, in his words.

So, there – the brutal truth?


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(Once Upon A Time…)

He had talked to me about “Chasing Amy” to explain how he felt about how one could know there isn’t someone “better out there” unless one went and looked.

Except the movie isn’t just about knowing whether there could be someone else out there; “to not limit the likelihood of finding that one person who would complement me so completely.”

It is about finding true love. Whether I am better, or rather, am not, is not the issue. Neither is whether there is someone else out there. He still seeks, because I am not “the one”. If I am not, asking me to consider a non-exclusive relationship when he already knows, is just cruel; if I am not “the one”, he should just say so and let me go. Let me not suffer the indignity.

I have thought of “widening my horizons” too. But I never did venture forth, because my heart tells me that though he is not the best, and there are surely other “better” men, he is what my heart wants. And I could not bear to hurt “We” by testing the robustness of my belief. And I know, somehow, that he would not have taken me back if I did take that first step, as he has now done.


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I could never be with someone who wanted me just because I was ‘better’. (Oh, I know I am; and I also know that there will always be ‘better ones’ out there.)

I want to be with someone who is willing to give up all the ‘better ones’ because he loves me and just wants to be with me.

I want someone who will make that sacrifice for me.


Written by The Intimate Stranger

April 10th, 2012 at 7:06 am

Posted in once upon a time

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  1. I’m curious to know what triggered this reflection after that many years


    12 Apr 12 at 1.37 am

  2. Something someone said – that perhaps there was someone else ‘better’ out there.

    The Intimate Stranger

    16 Apr 12 at 9.49 pm

  3. *hug*


    19 Apr 12 at 7.07 am

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